Hello friends!😃💥 It’s been a while. I haven’t spoken to you in sometime now and I’m sorry for disappearing for so long🙈🌝. I’ve been living ‘life’ and adjusting to the new circumstances that come my way😌. Just so you know, I’m doing very fine😎 and God is taking good care of me!✌️ He’s a good Father.

In the last post, I wrote about mistakes and the necessity of letting go of regrets. I’m so excited to continue! If you haven’t read it, oya, oya, run back and read it before you continue here, trust me, I have a way of entertaining you with my words😌. Alright, let’s get into today’s talk! ☺️

Having said that brooding on mistakes is not the solution, what should be done to overcome the pain and hurt that comes with it? Let’s gooo!

Remind yourself that God has forgiven you.

There is no manner of sin you can commit that can stress the Love of God. Read that again. The elasticity of God’s love has no limit. It brings you great, soothing peace to know that The One up there has no grudges against you. All he wants is for you to decide to not repeat it if it was an intentional action.

The next thing you need to know is…

Forgive yourself.

Please, and please, enough with this expectation of perfection. No man is perfect, we only are working towards it. A baby is meant to walk at a certain point but if the first and tenth time he tries to walk he falls, do you beat him or give up on him? Haba, you would be wicked if you did so. My Yoruba people I’ll call you Agbaya😏. Stop expecting too much from yourself. Give yourself space to grow and learn. I recently started an mental process on myself where I intentionally perform exercises I know I will fail at. I’m doing it not because I’m foolish, but because I want to get rid of the fear of failure. I want to master the art of rising up after failing the seventh time because as far as you’re trying new things, there will always be space for failure.

You have to allow yourself to grow and you must realise that in the process of growing, you will make mistakes. Therefore, forgive yourself everytime you make a mistake and don’t be afraid to try doing it the better way. Failure doesn’t determine the end, it’s only a bump on the road.

Failure doesn’t determine the end, it’s only a bump on the road.

Victorious Ruth.

Do you remember when you were in primary school and you spelt a word wrong in your book while copying what your teacher wrote on the board? Did you sit on the floor and begin to cry? Did you remember about the mistake when you got home that day? Did you cry on your bed before sleeping, wishing you never made that mistake in your book? No! Let me tell you what you did. You forgot about it.

The same way you erased the mistake on your exercise book with an eraser or cancelled it with a stroke and tried writing the word again, learn to live life like that. Forget about things that cannot contribute to your growth. Learn to try again. Live like a child and hope for a better tomorrow.

You must know that you are not the same person after a mistake. Your eyes have been opened the more, your understanding has been enlightened 😅, you might have refused to listen to warnings and instructions, but with the ‘experiencial’ knowledge you have now gained, the lesson will now stick like shoe-maker’s gum😄😅.

Wait. There’s strawberry icing on the cake: remind yourself that you will still make many mistakes in the future. They may be fewer than now, but know that mistakes are things that are inevitable and we must master how to rise back up after every fall because only those that try again make it to Success.

So ask yourself: “What pain am I holding on to that I need to let go of?”